my secret to success

January 05, 2013
I want to know what your first thought was when you read the title of this post. What success do you think I'm referring to?

I'm letting you in on my secret to success in all aspects of my life - relationships, parenting and my career.  

The secret? Be honest. 
Sounds easy, right? Not too many people are honest. Okay, I guess they are, but they don't speak the truth. Okay, they speak the truth, but not enough. 

How often are you pissed off about something, don't agree with what someone says and are boiling up inside because you want to tell someone how you really feel? Just do it! I'm not recommending that you walk up to someone and say "I don't like you," but if there is something your team at work is discussing or wanting to implement and you think it's a horrible idea and have reasons to back it up, tell them. Your reasons could change the way business is conducted or a campaign is ran. You could be pointing out a major flaw no one has thought of yet. Just because you have an opinion doesn't mean you're rude or wrong. 

Yes, sometimes I say more than I should, but hey, I'm a WYSIWYG type of person - take it or leave it. I'm not here to spend my life pleasing every person I come in contact with or being fake. I know when to hold things back, and I'm not afraid to call it like it is. 

I realize not everyone thinks logically or literally, like I do, but I often wonder why not? So many people believe so much random bullshit that other people tell them, they let people walk all over them and they're afraid to stand up for themselves. I might be a bitch, but I've helped a lot of my friends come out of their shells and stick up for themselves. 

I've gone off on a tangent, but I don't lie to my son and I don't intend to. I'm not the parent that says "if you don't do this then I'm going to do this" and then not do it. Your kid will never believe you. One of my friends tells her kid she's going to call an ambulance or the police every time her kid misbehaves - that kid will probably grow up to be the person that runs around yelling  "eff the po-lice" 

My husband and I are both "call it like you see it" type of people. People don't like that. Oh, I'm sorry - you don't like that I'm telling the truth, pointing out the obvious or not believing your bullshit? I'm not a politician and I don't want to be. 

I've gone significantly far in my career by calling it like it is, standing up in marketing meetings when I believe something is a bad idea or should be tweaked. I don't beat around the bush. I raise my son honestly and have honest conversations with my husband. 

I'm not calling all of you liars - but I am calling you out on the fact that you hold a lot inside and want to come off as a perfect, quiet little girl - but guess what? A lot of people are talking about you, behind your back (sucks) and saying how you don't have a personality and that you couldn't stick up for yourself if a fly made you mad. 

Be honest. Stick up for what you believe in. Don't be an ass about it, but be a solid, opinionated and educated person. 


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  2. Ya girl! I love how bluntly honest this post is. Kudos!


  3. this is why I absolutely love you and wish we were close enough to spend more time together.

  4. I also wish that we lived closer! I think it would be a lot of fun to hear your opinions!! I enjoy reading your posts. I also enjoy hearing that someone else is very open with their significant other. Realtionships are built on trust - not just with your spouse.. but any realationship you have. It really blows my mind that someone would tell their kid that the will call the police if they misbehave! Next time you are in San Diego we should get together! <3, Amy