my wish for your wedding

November 04, 2012
I’ve been writing this post in my head for months and haven’t had the chance to sit down and write it. As I write this, I’m flying to CA for one of my best friends’ weddings.

Wouldn’t it be great if I had photos from my wedding to share? Well, they’re on my hard drive and I’m on a plane. I scoured some up from Facebook.

As you may or may not know, I got married young—young compared to my friends. I was 22, Travis recently returned from Iraq and I had graduated college exactly a week prior. I always said I wouldn’t get married until I had my degree, we wasted no time setting the date for the weekend after graduation. One of the reasons was that we thought he was going to deploy gain in February (we got married in December)  so we finally set a date (after changing it at least 10 times). Might as well get married before I move to California to live with him (I moved the day after our wedding).  So I was a 22-year-old college graduate getting married to my boyfriend/fiancĂ© of 10 years.

I was the first one of my friends to get married. The internet was for email and research papers, and sometimes Facebook in 2007. I didn’t have Pinterest or wedding websites or photo albums of friends to look at. I had a limited budget to plan the wedding (thanks Mom & Dad!) and had no idea what I was doing. Travis was in Iraq during the planning so I pretty much planned the whole thing.

I didn’t spend much on my dress, I didn’t spend much time shopping for dresses. I didn’t splurge on the reception. I pretty much did everything as cost effective as possible. One great thing about that is that it didn’t put us in debt, but I do wish I would’ve done things differently. Don’t get me wrong, I loved our wedding, and it was perfect for us  at the time.

Sure, if I got married now—older with more money, I would’ve chosen a different dress, reception venue and decorations. I love watching my friends plan their weddings, but I can’t help but to be a little jealous. I had no idea what I was doing and neither did anyone else. But I’m a one and done kind of person, so it’s over and done with and it was fun. I can’t believe it will be 5 years in December.

Now with all of that said, the main purpose of this post is my wish for your wedding day is that you remember everything.

My wish for your wedding day is that you try to take it slow, observe everything around you, remember every moment and try to be 10 places at once during the reception. 

Your wedding day goes by so fast. You’re making sure you’re perfect, everyone is happy and that everything goes as planned—as you should.

Take pictures. Don’t rely on everyone else to take them, try to take some yourself so you have some to look at the next day. This day in age, we are very social and viral—that is awesome for you. Back in my day (haha) digital cameras were kind of popular, but we didn’t get a ton of photos from our wedding from other people. I am bringing my camera and phones to Jenny’s wedding so that I can capture as many moments as I can. It was fun looking at photos from my wedding that my friends took—there were definitely things I missed but loved seeing the photos and hearing the stories.

Don’t try to talk to every single person at the reception. Yes, you probably should, but we wanted to make sure we talked to every single person, so during dinner, we didn’t eat—we went to each table and talked to each person. It was a nice touch, but we still had to cut conversations short and we felt stressed and rushed. Was our dinner good? I have no idea.

While we were dancing it up, we were trying to see everyone, doing interviews with our videographer and etc… I honestly don’t think Travis and I spent much time together at our reception because we were running around doing interviews, taking photos and trying to say hi to our family.

It goes fast, no matter how slow you try to take it, it goes fast.

If you can, try to have breakfast with your guests the next morning – they came in town to see you and probably would love to talk to you. We didn’t have that chance since we had to head to the airport to catch our flight to make it in time for our honeymoon cruise.

Jenny is having a brunch the day after the wedding and I’m so excited. It will be nice and relaxing and I’m sure there will be some fun stories to tell.
Now after telling you to do all of that, I’m going to tell you not to do all of that. It’s your wedding, who cares. Do what you want and have fun. Everything will be just as planned. Dance your ass off, enjoy some drinks and cherish the memories.

It’s kind of sad when it’s all over and done with. You’ve spend so long planning it and now you have free time and nothing to look forward to. Yes, you have your marriage to look forward to, but you know what I mean.

Take your time. Relax. Look around. Take pictures. Dance. Smile. Laugh.

Cheers to love, laughter and happily ever after. 

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