If you know me or have been following me for a while, you know I’m not a fan of knowing too many military wives—too catty, too much drama and etc… Some of the best military wives I have come to know are the ones I’ve met digitally. It’s usually easier to communicate digitally because you can get out everything you want to say without interruption or judgmental facial expressions.
Social media, specifically Twitter holds a special place in my heart. When I share something immediately after I do it, it’s not to share with all of my random followers on Twitter, it’s to share with my BOFF Best Online Friends Forever.
I dove into the Twitter scene pretty hard in 2009, during our first married deployment. I was living the dream in San Diego, my best friend from college randomly (thankfully) got a job in Orange County and was the only person I knew there.
Sure, we all have our work friends, but they’re just that, work friends. Typically, we don’t talk to them outside of the office.
It’s no secret that I spend a lot of time on the computer and that Facebook is a lot different than Twitter. I’m not really sure how it all started, but I began conversation with several military wives every night once I got home from work and was settled down for the night.
While starting a blog (I don’t even remember what I called it back then) and trying to organize my thoughts about being bored while my husband was gone, and all of the other horrible thoughts that consistently fill our minds while they are gone, I was kept company by some of the greatest women.
We got to know each other, some of us ended up meeting in person eventually, but most of all, it was a place to hang out, vent, be understood and not judged.
I didn’t have any unknowns or uncertainties about deployments at that point, but it was easier to surround myself with people who understood, versus my civilian friends who were probably just irritated that my husband was deployed.
My BOFFs asked how I was doing, how my day was, if the deployment was going to end early or be extending—but they knew not to ask where he was, when he was coming home or any other details that would violet OPSEC (operational security). They understood that those were not questions that should be answered digitally, especially in a public forum—sometimes that’s where DMing came into play.
Over the years I’ve watched these women grow, lose friends, have children, go through divorces and retire from the Corps. We come from all walks of life but have one thing in common, we are military wives who want to be supported.
From reading blogs to networking with other spouses on Twitter, the digital space can be one of your biggest comforts during deployment. When you’re having a rough day, someone else probably is, or you know there is a blog you can read of someone who has been there.
We don’t always talk about being a military wife or what’s going on in the deployment. We can talk about shoes, purses, shopping, baby puke and just wanting to take a nap. Subconsciously we all gravitate toward each other on Twitter because we tend to get along really easily.
Some people may think if you have something in common with a group of people, you’ll all get along. That’s not necessarily true. I don’t think wives of civilians come together and bond over that—that’s the majority of people in the world.
Why do you love Twitter? Has Twitter helped you meet amazing people? Share your experiences in the comments.
Popular hashtags to find others involved in the military lifestyle: #MilSpouse #SOT #MilitaryMonday