We moved here in February and he didn't start his job as an Instructor until this past Monday (annoying that we've been here for no reason for 7 long, pointless months). He just picked up his first class, and everyone knows the first week of any class is usually pretty low key. Travis has been getting home between 6 and 8, one day at 5:30.
I know I sound like a whiny biznatch right now, and I know what I was "getting into" when we got married, BUT we were fed a bunch of bullshit about this job.
What we were told (none of this is true), not to mention we are beyond the point of things being fabricated, he's an E6 and there shouldn't be any bs'ing once you're IN the Corps! So, back to what we were told:
- It's a higher-class, elite group of people
- The wives are older, more mature and aren't typical military wives
- There are SOME long hours
- The only long hours are leading up to, and during finex
- Virginia Beach is great
People here suck. Virginia Beach is white trash and disgusting. I've met the wives once and didn't see a need to get their contact information. The hours are always long.
I would have preferred to go to Croatia, as I wrote about here. If there was a chance in hell we could've stayed in California (we were pushing our time there already) I would've dealt with another deployment.
I realize there are long hours and job comes first. I wish my job came first. I'm pulling all of the strings in the world to hang on to my job in California (read about that here) and work from home. Yes, I'm home all day, but I don't come out of my office, so at the end of the day, Brady still has to be picked up from daycare, driven home, dinner started all while still working on West Coast time, answering emails and phone calls.
Now my husband isn't coming home until we've already eaten or it's Brady's bath time. When it's just Brady and I, I have no desire to cook. Who cares? I'm fine making quick, simple meals for us, but those aren't enough for Travis, so I still have to cook a decent meal for whenever he gets home.
Once he gets home, Brady is off to bed and we are all exhausted so we sit down for the night. Most of this is just me venting because it's a Saturday and he just went into work. Tomorrow, I have plans form 3-5 and he told his students he would be more than hpapy to come in and help them tomorrow afternoon. Hell no. He always tells me if/when I find something to do or to have 'me time' that I can have it. I'm going to a Pampered Chef party, not because I want to, but so that I can get out of the house! So, he's going in in the morning instead. He's going to go during Brady's nap time, but it still sucks because he's not home.
I've always said it's probably easier to be a single mom because you don't have to worry about someone, wonder when they are coming home or rely on anyone for help. I'm definitely not saying that being a single mom would be easy, but maybe you can understand what I mean.
At this point, I also think Travis being deployed would be easier than him randomly being here. Don't get me wrong, I love when he is home and when the three of us can spend time together, but never knowing when he's coming or going is irritating. We can't make any plans, plan trips or anything until after December 17. I don't know when he picks up his next class, but I'm sure it's soon after that.
If this place wasn't the asshole of America and I knew more people or had family here, it wouldn't be as bad.
If you read this entire post, you probably want to smack me, but if you're a military wife, you get it. We know what we "signed up for" but it doesn't mean we have to love it.
Excuse me while I go finish the laundry and figure out what's for dinner. A dinner I don't feel like making. I'm also checking out sittercity.com to find someone who can help with housekeeping and cooking dinner one night a week while I have a conference call.
Did I mention Travis has a cast on his left arm so he can't help out as much? He does.
Have a great weekend with your families!