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May 30, 2012
I've been simplifying my life a lot lately, hence my absence from my blog, and distance from Twitter and Facebook. I'm still heavily involved in the social sphere, it's my career.

I've eliminated negative people from my life and have been taking a break from others who keep me down. Not to say that they make me feel bad about myself, but when I talk to people and all they have to say are bad things about other people's lives and children and basically do anything imaginable to make themselves feel better, it's draining and annoying. My simplifications have also included reducing cleaning products, pantry items, toys, clothes, shoes, and keepsakes- once I went through everything and convinced myself we don't really need a lot of what we had, it felt good to get rid of. Though, it was hard to part with some things, so they stayed.

So, on that note, I've been pretty quite lately. While still regularly posting, I've kept my distance from a lot of people, and my life is peaceful. There are several people that like to put on fronts and talk about how amazing their lives are and etc... when in fact, most of us know that they are unhappy, wish they would've made other life choices and have been on the verge of divorce several times. Why pretend your life is something that it's not?

People seek out the weak. They find them, attach to them and suck the life out of them (not knowingly) to make themselves feel better. I think they subconsciously think that if they talk crap about other people and pick them apart all day long, some how it will make their life look better or they will just ignore everything going on in their life. It's sad.

Life is what you make it. If you don't like it, change it. You're not a tree. I enjoy reading blogs and posts from people who are open and honest about their lives. You can feel the pain of someone who pretends their life is fantastic 24/7. No one is perfect, no one's child is perfect, and no one can change the way they look without plastic surgery. Most people are fine with the way they look, deep down you probably think they look okay, too, but you pick apart their flaws and compare it to things on your body that you think are perfect.

Be confident, not cocky. Don't prey on the weak. Do things to improve your life. Don't worry about others. Don't you ever wonder how much smack someone is talking about you and how they are picking you apart? It's happening, you just don't think it is because you're putting on the biggest front.

This isn't directed to anyone in particular, just a very general observation and it makes me sad to see the crap people do. Before Facebook, we couldn't sit around and stalk people, go through their pictures and analyze their lives. Life was more simple and enjoyable then. I love social media, it pays the bills, but enjoy real life, too. A lot of what you do and say online, you would never say in person.

The people you talk smack about and pick apart, you hang out with in real life. Do you hang out with them just to pick their brains and find out more about their lives so you can jump online when you get home and talk bad about them?

I'm no angel and I'm guilty of talking bad about others, but there comes a point when you have to realize there are a lot of things people can't or don't want to change. Be happy with your life. Stop living in denial.

I recently met a triple amputee who could give two shits what he looks like, he's living the dream and having the time of his life.

It's really sad to see what virtual communication has done to society.

Don't hide behind the computer and stop spending all of your time worrying about others.

What will you do or what have you done to simplify your life? Buying and doing things just so you can post them online and say you did it isn't going to help you, materialistic equals shallow.


3 comments:

  1. Very true. Thanks for sharing. I've been trying to do this as well. In fact, I am on a short hiatus from social media. I check in, but that is about it. I need to reevaluate what is important to me. I don't want to judge others based on their Facebook feed and I don't want other people to do the same to me. It's a hard habit for me to break, but I'm trying.

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    1. It really is super hard not to share your life on fb, it's what we do! But there are some people who only post the neg and you can't help but judge them. Glad you're in my boat, we can be a secret social support system haha

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  2. so true!

    As you can tell I leave the online world often, things get too dramatic out there, or at times it's because I need to step away and fully focus on the things that are happening in real life. I have always admired the way you tell it like it is Chelsea ;) you are a great Woman xoxo

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